It is more to me than something simple and obvious. People, I mean.
I’m talking about the easy and the obvious findings. I’m talking about the things we fail to notice yet we see them every day. People. Although not all are the same and not all people belong in the same category.
But again, since this is about happiness and the findings we grab along the way, then let’s talk about the greatest thing we can find. Our tribe.
What does this consist of?
They are more than just the people in our life. They are the ones who we can be ourselves with. They are the chosen and the selective few. Above all, they are the ones who we can be our “authentic” selves with.
No need to worry, nor wonder, or waste a breath of insecurity because to us, they are the members of our own private tribe.
I have to admit it – I have my own crazy ways. No, really.
I do.
I have my own personal wildness, which I seldom tell anyone about. I have thoughts and ideas, wild and as ever. In fact – I have intimate thoughts too, and fantasies and desires and quietly kept secrets which I hold inside because perhaps I have a fear of judgment. There is also a concern for rejection or exposure. Thus, my confidentiality and trust can be ruined; hence, my vulnerability can lead me to a sense of foolishness.
Sure – I have this.
I am a very real person with a very real heartbeat. My lungs breathe air. My heart pumps blood and my mind thinks thoughts. I have arms and legs that work. My back isn’t what it used to be and neither is my hearing or my vision (I tell you, age is a real bitch!) however, I am and always will be a person in this world, a traveler, searcher and a seeker.
I’m real and with that being said, I have different scenarios that I think about. There are some who I can share my thoughts with.
However, there are others who it would be unsafe to tell them the time of day, let alone to tell them my inner-thoughts, fantasies, needs or desires.
There are only so many people in this world who we can jive with on a perfect level and, to me, there is no finding better than this.
To me, this is better than anything else in the world.
To know someone – and I mean to know them intimately and not just physically – but to know them from a deeper perspective and to have the depth of understanding and comfort; as if to say ah, yes. That’s my person.
They get me.
To share your most inner-self and secrets and be totally at ease with this (and them) is the most valuable finding in the world.
Trust me . . .
What does that mean?
What does it mean to have someone “get you” or appreciate you?
What is it like to have a person understand you without having to say any words at all?
Is there anything more valuable than this?
I say this intimately but yes, intimacy has all kinds of meanings.
Yes, intimacy comes with all different kinds of faces too.
This can be a friend. This can be family. This can be a lover or someone you admire from a distance or up-close and personal – this doesn’t have to be limited by a physical nature yet – intimacy is a feature which comes with different settings and various frequencies.
And frequency – now there’s another great word.
To be on the same frequency –
To share a matching or mutual vibration –
To understand the contagiousness of the people we allow “in.”
To match or to mesh, seamlessly, as if to be connected by the spirit or linked cosmically perhaps; or to be drawn together by some kindred-like connection.
I say this comes with lifelong friendships and yet I say this comes with new friendships as well. I say this happens with people who somehow cosmically collide and connect, as if fate and destiny drew the map and our footsteps led us towards the same destination.
But love?
Sure . . .
There is love.
There is love for me and for you and for us
And yes, there are the complications we find on this journey and there are reasons to run and hide.
Either way – there’s only one reason to stay the course and face the challenges that trip us at our feet. That reason is love. I am sure of it.
I believe we all have a purpose. I believe that sometimes our purpose for one another is limited and our time is finite. I understand that in life, certain relationships will end.
This will hurt. Heartbreak will take place.
I am a firm believer in the idea that this is life and that no one gets out alive.
No one escapes unscathed.
Into each life, a little rain must fall is another saying.
I get that too because I have seen my share of rainy days. In fact, it’s raining as we speak – both literally and figuratively.
However, I have weathered the storms before and bigger storms than this have come and left damage, both equally, if not even more sever.
I have lived through my entire life and with over 51 years beneath my belt – I have come to this one specific conclusion: Behold!
Behold the ones you love, the ones you live for, the ones you care for and the ones you value.
Behold them and behold their importance.
Behold their loving greatness.
Behold their laughter. Behold their confidence and their sincerity.
Behold the moments and the memories and behold the times when they were there for you the most.
Do not forget this. Do not allow yourself to take this (or them) for granted.
Do not give your back or turn away from those who decided to dedicate their loyalty to you for a time may come when you turn around to say, “I’m here” and they’re gone.
Do not fade from your loyalty or your truth.
Your tribe – your people.
Who are they?
Who are the people that exist alongside you and because of this – your life is better, no matter how hard the times maty be?
Who are the people in your life who understand without explanation?
Who are the people in your life that you can take the mask off or let your hair down and not spend a minute or even a second on worry or doubt?
Who are the people you can be humble with?
Who can you share your secrets with?
(Or fantasies?)
God, I hate you –
Mr. Insecurity.
I hate you too –
Mr. Inferiority.
I hate you –
Mr. Overthinker.
Do you want to know a great find?
A random song that comes on the radio, which is out of nowhere and just like that – I am reminded of a time, before the drama began. This dates back to when happiness came with an easier momentum.
My advice:
Guard well your heart.
And guard well the comfort of those who live within it.
Value your life.
Value your tribe.
Value your circle because whether this is big or small, it’s the contents of your life.
I offer you this because the people who you share your life with are going to be the flash in your eye that comes before the end of your journey – and with life being fragile and time being short; and since time passes in the blink of an eye – mind yourself. Mind your loved ones. Mind the people who love you in return and whenever possible – let them know how truly valuable they are.
Either way –
The people who know will already know
It’s still nice to hear though.
So let me just leave you with this
I love you.
I might not always get it right.
I might not always do the right thing or say the right thing
But –
The value of finding a quarter in your pocket that came from a night when we were out, or the simple findings of a song that comes on a radio is everything to me – for example, the lyrics I just heard – “I don’t want to wait for our lives to be over.” are very fitting for me.
Me neither.
So, to you, to The Big Man upstairs –
I seldom discuss these things with you. I never know how to ask for this sort of thing but if you can, it would mean a lot if you send a blessing my way – or just a sign.
Something to let me know.
Wait – I just got a text . . .
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