I called this journal, If That Were True because thoughts are not always true. And neither are assumptions. Fears are not always so and opinions are not always fact. But to us . . .
We are what we think we are.
Right?

If I think that I am terrible, then it must be true.
If I think that I am a waste or a loser or an imposter and that any moment now, the curtain will be pulled and all will be revealed, then at best, I will always be on the look out or be prepared for an expected or an upcoming humiliation.
But what if none of this is true?
What if this is only a thought?

If we notice, everything comes down to us. There really is nothing else, at least not according to us.
There are other people in the world. There are other places too, such as places around the world with other people who speak other languages.
We all know this.
We all know that there is a great big world out there. At the same time, we are only limited to our own view.
We see what we see. We learn what we learn and we interpret information in our own special way.

If the opposite of peace is chaos, then at some point, we have to come to an end. At some point, we can only fall so far until we hit the bottom. And we can’t fall forever.
We can’t live in constant crisis mode. Eventually, something has to give.

If everything washes out in the end or if it is true that pride comes before the fall, then at some point, whether it will be the cancel culture or the gossip mills and rumor factories, or whether our demise is our own doing, eventually, there will be nowhere left to fall.

At what point is it enough? When is it your turn?
These are great questions to ask. In fact, I ask this about us all the time.
When is it our turn?
See, I want to dance. I want to have the times of our life.
I want to be the reason why people look with envy.
Sure, I do.

I was involved with a talk about how we think or why we feel the way I do. And then it came down to the parents.
As if to ask, “where were they” or “why didn’t they talk to me about any of this.” and I have news about this. We all have our own programs running in the background.
No one can see through my eyes and no one can see through yours.
We have all been led by our own perception. We have all been prey to our own misperceptions as well.
Plus, there is a projection, or in the case of our parents who overlooked our life from the beginning and the early ears, perhaps they were lost too or maybe they lost to their own misperceptions as well.

There is another simple question that comes into play.
What do you like?
I ask this because this is a great way to find peace.
You have to know what you like. And you have to know what you want.
For example –

I am someone who needs to have a purpose. I need to have something to do.
I need to have a reason to wake up in the morning. I have to have someplace to go because this is what moves me.
This is what motivates me – each day, and yes, one day at a time.