I believe that yes, we do have to fall sometimes to learn what it feels like to get back up. We need to know that we can endure. We need to know that we can overcome and that in spite of our mistakes and regardless to our own inner defects or outbursts and regrets, we can still go forward if we choose to.
We can still move forward as long as we refuse to let shame become the obstacle or allow blame to become the reasons why we can’t move on. And yes, the good important things in life do not, will not, and cannot come easy. Otherwise, we might not see them for what they are. Otherwise we might not realize how valuable the good important things are and therefore; we might not understand the things we have.
For example, if you were to lose a dollar bill from your pocket, this would not be amongst the greatest things to happen throughout your day, but losing one dollar would not be the worst. Up the ante however and now the loss goes from one dollar to ten, or twenty, and the loss increases.
We tend to equate our worth to a material scale of possessions. Truth is our value is worth more than a dollar amount. But yet, tell a man he is worthless or tell a woman she is ugly; tell someone they are meaningless or tell a kid they are unremarkable, and suddenly, they lose sight of their value.
We know what the value of money is. We know what things are worth. Because of social snobbery, we know that K-mart shoppers are not seen the same as someone who buys their clothes at say Neiman’s or at the couture levels of high priced items. And for some reason, this dictates the value of a person. I can say that I have had the benefit of interacting with the extremely wealthy as well as the financially poor.
I have met poor people who seemed wealthier than anyone else in the world and wealthy people that valued themselves as poorly as anyone else in the homeless population. It’s the mindset, not the money that dictates value
A very special person told me, “At the end of a chess game, all the pieces go back into the same box.” This person is beautiful for more reasons than they know.
I wonder . . .
I wonder if we were to take away all of our preconceived illusions; if we were to remove all the imaginary obstacles we see in our path, and rather than face the world from an emotional standpoint; if we were to focus on the task at hand, if we disregarded all the unimportant distractions and placed value in our effort instead of focusing on the comparison of our result; I wonder how much further we would progress if we just learned to disconnect from all the interfering distractions in our life.
Truth is not everything is so goddamned crucial.
Someone’s words, regardless to how hurtful the words may be are only as valuable as our investment to them . . .
We hear people say, “I don’t know why I did what I did,” but the truth is seep down, we always know why we act or behave.
Why do you think people say what goes around comes around?
I can say from my own perspective that yes, in my mistakes towards this thing we call our fellowship of mankind (or womankind if you are one,) my actions or reactions were based on an emotional need. Mind you, I say an emotional need because the intellectual mind does not work this way. In fact, the body is a vessel in which we have either one or two captains to steer the ship: We either move in reaction to emotion or we move according to intellect.
The intellectual mind does not compute feelings or emotion. Instead, the intellectual mind only navigates through ways of plan and strategy. All else is in the mind, or so they say, which is why we tell people, “Don’t think too much,” just do.
I agree that pain is not a great thing; however, I do see thing as an important thing. I see pain as a teacher. I see pain as a measuring stick. I see pain as a dependable thing. I see it as something which we can count on. I see physical pain, especially self-harm, as a way our body produces a teardrop.
I see troubled behavior as an explanation of our mind’s inability to express itself through vocabulary or language. And since we can’t speak our mind, we act out. And since we can’t act the way we want to, as a reaction, we behave in others ways that reflect our emotion. This is the mind’s tantrum.
I believe that yes, we need to lose sometimes. This way we realize the importance of our value. I have always seen it this way; there are two kinds of people in life —there are those who hunt for sport and those who hunt to survive.
Those who hunt for sport are not always hungry. To them, food like this is a luxury. Therefore, they might not understand the values of their risk or what it means to go without.
To them in the sport, this is only a game and the world is a given place. To which, in this case, it easier to submit or accept the mundane and mediocre.
If left to their own and in need of survival, those who’ve only hunted for sport might not always survive when they lose their fancy arrows and find themselves dirtied in the mud.
Those who hunt to survive see the value of every morsel. They understand the value of every meal. They understand the value of every footstep and every ounce of energy that place into their effort. They will never go hungry because their desire to eat and the strategy of their efforts will always overcome their fears of going hungry.
Some people go their entire lives believing champions never lose. But they are wrong.
I say champions lose more than anyone and that’s what makes them champions because in spite of loss, in spite of fear, in spite of unfavorable odds, and in spite of doubt, in spite of physical ability, and even in spite of physical, spiritual, or emotional pain, regardless to any and all distractions, the champion still competes at the level of their best possible ability. of all things I have ever wanted to be; I want to be a champion the most.
I used to place everything on the scales of win or lose. I used to allow this to dictate my pace. The problem is when the loss column because full, it was hard for me to see my ability to succeed.
It would be dishonest of me to say this struggle is gone from my life. No, I am human and because I am human, I come with feelings just like everyone else. But rather than see life as a win or lose obstacle, I have decided that I am just going to play the game.
No matter what happens. I will play with all my heart and with all I have. No matter what the obstacle is, no matter what the terrain is, and no matter who the opponent might be; I have come to understand that in most cases of competition, —the toughest opponent I have ever faced in my life is me. So as I see it, if I can overcome this kind of loss then I can overcome anything.
So yes, I believe we have to fall sometimes. I believe we have to feel loss. This way we know what it feels like to get back up. This way we know what it feels like to gain, to overcome and win beyond our own concepts. In my opinion, this is when the idea of winning or losing stops and victory begins.
This is what it means to be a champion.