Have you ever watched someone begin a personal program? Whether the program is exercise based or diet based; whether the program is a newly acquired position at work, whether the program is a new relationship or a new schedule designed to create life changes, in the beginning, have you ever noticed the way some approach the starting line and how they blast off out from the gate?
Everyone starts off with their best foot forward. Maybe a newly hired employee comes in an hour early just to be sure. Let’s say that same employee arrives at 8:00am for their 9:00am shift. They wake an extra hour early; they catch a painfully early bus or train, and then they run to be at their desk an hour early to organize and prepare for the day. This is their best foot forward.
However, a schedule like this is tough to keep. However, in some cases, when the intensity of their intention changes, slowly but surely, the hour early becomes 45 minutes, which becomes 30 minutes, and a week or so later, 30 minutes becomes 15 and then 15 minutes becomes just on time until eventually, the newly hired employee is not so new anymore and arriving late instead of an hour early.
This happens with newly hired employees. This happens with newly acquired eating regiments. This happens with exercise routines and schedule changes to create better health and wellness.
I have certainly watched this happen in self-help programs. I can say that I have seen this first hand with my interaction in efforts to fight back against the opiate epidemic.
I have seen this with clients that struggle with family crisis, weight, depression, romantic and intimate dependencies.
I have seen people create a new regiment with strict and almost unrealistic schedules without allowing proper time to rest and appropriate times to be where they need to be and when.
Sometimes we set unrealistic goals for ourselves. Sometimes the goals we set are not sustainable, which makes the outcome unobtainable; therefore, we find ourselves slowly moving away from our goals until eventually, we’ve given up and we find ourselves back to old, default settings.
Goals need to be realistic, attainable, and sustainable in order for us to see them through. For example, what if that newly hired employee simplified a route to work that would allow for an easier or more appropriate time.
This way the extra hour of sleep would not be lost, which is important because when the body is tired it is hard to function at our best potential. One day of feeling overtired will quickly become two and so on.
The best foot forward is always an honest foot forward. When we travel to impress, we often create a pace that is too difficult to maintain.
This is why I ask” What is your R.A.S.O.
This is your goals. This is the way you live your live at an honest pace. This is you at your best and true self. This is you working towards a Realistic, Attainable, Sustainable, Outcome.
There are times when we set ourselves up to fail. We aim without strategy and perform on behalf of emotion or to impress rather than act on behalf of simplified goals, which act as a means to reach our goals of achievement.
This is where honesty comes in. This is where personal coaching is important. We need to know where to start from. We need to understand our abilities at an honest pace; otherwise, we run the risk of over-doing it. This can lead to self-sabotage. We run the risk of internal frustration, which leads us back to the old behaviors we wanted to change.
When we set unrealistic goals or create an unrealistic pace, we tend to miss the mark on days when we are not at our best. This can sometimes lower our standards, which might still be higher than our realistic ability, but come the next time we fall short, we find the disappointment unbearable. Slowly but surely, this deteriorates our program.
In the case of personal betterment; this places us back to the old behaviors and default settings we wanted to get away from.
When it comes to personal or professional improvement, always define your R.A.S.O.
This way, we improve on an honest and gradual scale. This way our default settings will actually change. As we improve, so will our responses, and thus, so will our livelihood.
So let me ask you:
What’s your R.A.S.O.?
Define it and make it so
Trust me . . .
you’ll be glad you did