There is a voice within us all. In fact, there is more than one voice within us. In fact, there may be several voices, which come from different angles and speak for different reasons.
Each and every one of us has an internal monologue that we interact with on a daily basis. This is the voice of our thoughts. However, there are times when our thoughts tend to grow legs and run too quickly.
There are times when our thinking is not our friend. We tend to play this out and one thought leads to another and then another thought leads to the next.
If we are not careful our thinking plays out the tragedy of our worst fears. Next, we’ve spun ourselves into an anxious state of mind.
The anxiety picks up and takes off—and then, we implode, and then it’s like we have no choice.
We have to play the movie out in our heads. We have to explore our morbid curiosities to find out if our fears and insecurities are true.
Next, we find ourselves irritable and upset. We find ourselves in arguments that didn’t have to be. We find ourselves defending our personal borders as if we were a country under attack by a hostile enemy that doesn’t even exist.
Beware the thought mongers.
They come to do no good.
There is a voice inside of us all which speaks in tiny whispers that can be louder than the loudest scream.
(If we listen.)
This is the voice of our inner fears. This is our concern for rejection. This is the voice that screams in fear of being exposed and seen naked in the worst way possible.
This is the voice of our inner imperfections. This voice talks to us while others speak with us, making it impossible to listen, which makes it difficult to understand anyone or anything because all we hear is that voice.
Ask yourself, have you ever wished the thoughts in your head would just go away and stop talking?
Ever wonder if you are alone with this?
The truth is most people wish this would happen.
The voice of our fears is the voice that tells us our loved ones are not in love with us. This is the voice the concerns us by suggesting our fears are actual reality.
And so it begins.
One thought leads to another. Two thoughts become three and four. Four thoughts instantly multiply into a complicated stream of continuous thoughts that draw us towards failure.
This goes forward and onward until the mind trades thought for opinion. Next, opinion becomes expectation and fact, and next, sub-consciously, the outcome we fear has come to fruition, all because behaviorally, our sub-conscious programming has lead us towards the direction of our prediction.
Ever hear the saying, “You brought this upon yourself?”
This is where the saying comes from?
There is this voice, which is called the internal monologue.
We all have this.
We just need to be careful what we choose to listen to.
Lack of confidence—
“If you don’t get what you want, you suffer;
if you get what you don’t want, you suffer;
even when you get exactly what you want,
you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever.
Your mind is your predicament.
It wants to be free of change.
Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death.
But change is law and no amount of pretending
will alter that reality.”
There are times when we talk ourselves out of trying. There are times when we mistake our actions as failure. We see this as a means of rejection, and somehow, we just want to disappear. We feel fragile and vulnerable.
There are times when we think the worst; therefore we expect the worst because to us, our thoughts are law and no amount of pretending will alter the laws in our head.
All we do is calculate the math in our minds with inaccurate numbers and inaccurate statistics. Next thing we know, we’ve failed before we’ve even tried. We doubt. We argue. We expect the pain and await the doom to come and pull its trick.
There is a voice within us all that is not always our friend.
Beware of the thought mongers.
They come to do not good.
The inner monologue is frequently responsible for all of our meltdowns and self-induced tragedies.
This is why we push people away—because we expect them to leave—and so we argue and push them to hurry the injustice we’ve grown to expect.
We say things that come out wrong, and then we say we don’t mean them, but deep down, we do mean them. And it’s not that we want our fears to come true; we’re just afraid they will.
But the thought mongers have their hand in it now.
They push our predictions to become fact.
This is when we begin to spiral out of control. This is when we worry if our fears will be reality.
And the anticipation is a bitch!
Something’s coming our way. We know this is coming. It has to be coming. The shoe will drop at any minute. The impending doom is breathing down our necks so much that we react on its behalf.
It’s war, I tell you.
The importance we attach to our feelings, whether accurate or not, and the emphasis on worry that our worst fears will come true.
This includes fear of exposure, fear of pain, fear of the past happening again; the fear of rejection or total failure and humiliation based on previous experience; this also includes ego and the ego’s fear to be found unacceptable, unfit, unwanted, and less than, as in valueless, worthless, and worse, uninvited.
There is a voice in us all, in which, we need to be aware of. This voice denies rational thinking. It does not relate to logic. This voice assumes everything on an emotional basis.
Although inaccurate; this voice is crucial and real. This voice is alive and within us all. However, like any living thing, this voice can only thrive if it is fed or nurtured.
So don’t feed them.
Let the thought mongers starve. Do not nurture them. Do not feed the them because they will only grow.
Instead, replace thought with action.
Replace doubt with action.
Replace fear with action.
Move. Don’t stop.
Deify the lies
And don’t quit until the whispers stop.
There are names that will link to bad memories that will come up. There will be instances and accidents that happen. This is fact; however, does not mean we are the worst person.
We have to
be mindful of what we choose to do.
Most of all, we have to be mindful not to listen to the thought mongers because this is how they feed. This is how they thrive.
In order to stop the inner voice from speaking, we have to switch positions. We have to be mindful of our intentions and then plan on our goals to make them come into action.
We cannot live by the laws of our insecurity; else, we will find ourselves at the bottom again, in the depth of despair, alone, and broken.
The truth is there is a way out. There is a way we can overcome. We have to find our purpose. We have to define our dreams.
We have to design this and see it as clearly our reflection in the mirror. We have to learn how to defy the inaccuracies in our minds; otherwise, we will find ourselves in the spiral again, flushed down the drain, just like our worst fears suggested.
Want to know
where this comes from?
Where does this doubt come from?
Why would we not believe in ourselves?
Why would we see ourselves as anything less than beautiful or perfect and why do we seldom believe someone when the compliment us?
We come to this assumption based on a combination of our past experiences. Maybe this comes from worries of abandonment because we felt abandoned at some point.
Maybe we are afraid to be vulnerable because at a time of vulnerability, we were used or violated. Maybe we were betrayed or humiliated and the response we received was not the response we wanted. And maybe we swore, “I will never go through that again, but yet, here we are, going through the same old thing somehow.
Maybe this is real; maybe this is just a concern. Or, maybe this is a war dreamed up by the thought mongers and here we are, preparing for battle with an enemy that is made up by the sum of our own imagination.
I tell you, beware the thought mongers.
They come to do not good.
By the way,
the best advice I have ever received was from my good friend Mitch. I was going
through a rough time. I was worried about my professional future and worried
about the wreckage of a few poor choices.
I started to complicate the math in my head by adding figures and unknown values of my assumption.
Mitch looked at me and said, “Don’t play that movie out in your head. It never ends well.”
I went back to replace thought with action. I defined my plans to move onward and as days went by, I found that I was able to continue because of all things in this life, no one can ever stop me from being me—
unless I let them . . .