I say life is math. I see us all as a mathematical equation. I believe we are all this way. I think we are the sum of our past. We are a compilation of memory and a combination of circumstance. I see our personal factors as a mixture of events; some of which, we swore would never happen again, so obviously, we behave in a way to prevent past events from ever occurring again.
We are made up of different parts. We part where we come from and part of how we were raised. We are part heritage and part culture. We are part opinion and part emotion, part feeling, part recollection, part dreams, and part admiration. We are part glorious and part regretful, part resentful, part envy, part admiration, and part sad. Each of these parts vary in size according to the math of the individual, but in all, our main goal is to be part happy and part satisfied. We want to be part fulfilled, part justified, part accepted, part loved, part desired and part included.
All of these parts are in accordance with the mind. This is where we keep our calculators to add and subtract, to divide, and to multiply the figures of our life. Sometimes, however, we fail to add or accurately find the sum of our missing factors, which is where we lose to the math in our minds and come to the inaccurate answer that degrades our personal value.
If we do the math, life can be simplified by a series of personal questions.
What do I want?
What is our goal?
How do we want to live?
And, what do we want our life to look like?
Once this question is asked, the next question is what do I have to do to make this happen?
In order to change or grow or become, if we simplify this into basic math, we can break our personal questions into the simple terms of add or subtract.
Once we define our main objective then we have to set a series of goals. We have to honestly search ourselves and consider the obstacles.
What stands in the way of our better life?
What do we need more of and what do we need to subtract?
Since this is a personal quest, I recommend keeping this personal rather than allowing too much input from outside sources. I suggest this because too much input can be distracting and confusing.
For the best solution in any mathematical equation, all the figures need to be aligned properly. This applies to us and our circle of influence. Therefore, when choosing a personal team (whether this is for business reasons or private) or if you choose to share your goals with someone else, choose selectively.
Teamwork only works when the team plays well together. Unit cohesion is essential. We need synergy, which is why it is important to be selective of who we include on our personal team.
I look for people with leadership qualities. I look for people that are mindful and mutually beneficial. I look to stay away from one-sided relationships. Instead, I cultivate relationships that are reciprocal and respectful because ame as negativity is infectious, the empowerment bug is severely contagious! And that is a ug that I don’t mind catching.
When doing the math, I look to see what takes away from me. What divides me and multiplies my fears? I look at the people I interact with. I look at the places I go and the things I do.
I cannot control my outside surroundings or the uncontrollable terms of life; however, I can control my interaction.
(I was once told the pause between thought and action is recovery. I agree with this but not just about my life as it relates to sobriety. I say the pause between the thought and action is mindfulness.)
I can control my output. I can monitor what I consume; whether it is food or water or personal interactions, I can add more to my life by replacing thought with action. This will increase my output. And, I can subtract what I take in to keep from allowing my fear to divide me from my goals and keep me still (or stagnant.)
When placed on a sheet, the math is very simply. So write this down. Look into what changes you would like to make (if any) and ask yourself the honest question, “Would my life be better if I lived it this way?”
I recall sitting in a room the first night I began my series of journals. I wrote down all that I needed to be rid of.
I wrote down all that I wanted to earn and have in my life. In the easiest terms, I did the math and saw what needed to be subtracted.
I learned that relationships can either be poisonous or beneficial. In my honest and searching way, I wrote a list of all things I needed to exclude myself from.
I subtracted myself from people, places, and things. Figuratively speaking, I stood up from the table where I previously sat. I made a clear decisions to walk away from all that held me back.
More importantly, I gave myself the permission to walk away and become the me I had always dreamed of.
I cannot say this was easy. I cannot say that I was not afraid because I was. I was afraid of being alone; however, I already felt alone, which meant I could only improve.
I had to learn that my subconscious mind and my cognitive thinking is not always a friend to me. I had to understand that speculation is not fact nor a friend. Neither is opinion. Feeling is not fact and neither is assumption. I had to learn about the deception of my perception and most importantly, I came to an understanding that I had been doing my math the hard way. I had too many complications. Essentially,my life was a case of always solving word problems, which only complicated things.
Remember when we were kids and we sat in math class?
God, I hated math class!
Math was never my strongest subject.
Whenever the students would be confused with a problem, the teacher came around to show us a short cut.
Life is the same way. Sometimes, we just need to remove the unnecessary complications to find the answer to our best possible equation.