I believe with all my heart in the personal trinity. However, before I move forward, I would like to be clear that in this sense, the word “Trinity” in not used in the same sense as the Holy Trinity or in the Biblical sense.
This is not about religion at all. Instead, this is about personal balance and stability.
For this entry, the idea is to see us as a unison of three. We are mind, body, and soul. We are thought, emotion, and behavior. This is our trinity.
We are the threefold of memory, experience, and opinion. We are also the three combined, which are the hindbrain, midbrain, and the forebrain.
There is no emotion in the hindbrain. There is only function and basic survival like sleeping and breathing.
The midbrain however is where emotion lives. This is where memory hangs out and where our neural pathways connect thoughts with ideas and opinions. This can be a busy place.
This is where our biases come from. This is where our trained responses and prepared reactions are stored. This is where fear lives. This is where rejection stirs the pot and anxiety is fed by the ideas of regret and guilt and shame.
However, the forebrain matures later in our life. This is where logic is. This is where plan and strategy comes from. There is no emotion here. There is no fear. There is no regret. There are only ideas, plans, strategies, and goals.
The idea of balance, or personal homeostasis, is to maintain an even keel within our trinity.
However, emotion leads to the need to understand or find accountability for the unexplainable. Emotion needs to understand the unalterable things that come along with daily life. Emotion wants to change the unchangeable but this is impossible; therefore, this can be a wasteful measure and draining. This can also disturb our personal balance.
So long as there is feeling or discomfort, the midbrain looks to ease itself or appease its need to be soothed, just like a child, which is why I firmly believe in the inner child.
I believe in the sway of our inner self and inner fears. I believe in the distractions based on our programming and the bias of our perception.
I believe in the distractions that blur our daily focus. These are based on past experience and the collection of lifelong data which we tend to misinterpret.
Yet, furthermore, in order to establish personal balance and find peace within self, one would have to learn how to discern between truth and perception.
And be advised, perception is not truth; it is only the perceived truth, which means perception is often distorted by our opinions, our emotions, and our concerns.
Truth is we live in an unbalanced world. We live in an unbalanced time. Life can be tumultuous. People can be less than kind. In fact, people can be downright cruel.
However, so long as I hinge my happiness upon others and my interaction with others and so long as I connect myself to the outside sources of my life; I will not be able to find my ultimate balance within.
We are three
fold. We are thoughts, ideas, and action. We are the trinity of wants, needs,
In order to connect these three and to find a sense of internal peace, we need to create a method of action. We need to find our own Wellness Action Plan (or W.A.P) also known as a Wellness Recovery Plan (or W.R.A.P.)
I define this plan’s introduction with the acronym R.A.S.O which stands for Realistic, Attainable, and Sustainable Outcomes. This is a plan to achieve balance with the use of simple incremental goals, which in turn lead to short-term goals that evolve into long-term goals. Above all, the plan needs to be realistic. The goals need to be attainable and sustainable to achieve our best possible outcome.
This plan is based on the simple accumulation of basic achievements that compile throughout the day.
The main objective is to sharpen our focus by keying in on our efforts, which, above all is our only true source of control.
We cannot control outcome. We cannot control other people, places, or things. We cannot control whether it rains or pours or if the sun will shine when we need it most.
However, we can control our effort. We can create plans. We can create strategies. And so long as our focus is on our abilities and our strategy, the unbalance of our distractions is less weighty, which gives us the ability to see clearly and breathe freely.
Everyone has their own dreams, hopes, and aspirations. However, although others might share a path, we are all individuals and unique in our own way. Simply because someone else might share a similar vision; this does not mean they have the same desire to achieve it. Their vision is their vision. My vision is mine. And yours is yours. This makes us unique.
Next, we need to acknowledge the other trinities that can be problematic. We need to acknowledge pride, ego, and self-centeredness. We need to understand fear, concern, and reaction.
We need to trace them back to their origins to understand their needs to be understood, honored, and acknowledge.
We have to be mindful of our insecurity, doubt, and self-deprecation. These are the midbrain distractions which are more commonly inaccurate. They are based upon the phantoms of our opinion, experience, and memory. More importantly the midbrain dilemmas are frequently biased and based on the deception of our perception.
These have the ability to influence our thinking, therefore this will influence our feelings, and could result in a less than beneficial reaction.
In order to find a wellness plan that suits you best, first, there needs to be a starting point. There needs to be an idea. What are the changes you are looking for? What factors are most problematic?
Taking a look at your own circle of personal influence, define your assets. Define your support system and then decide and understand the counterweights that disturb your best order of balance.
Writing this out helps clarify the lines which can often be blurred by opinion. Also, writing this down leads to a deeper commitment.
This is where your plan begins. This is where the clarity begins and the separation defines the direction towards personal peace.
Above all, it is important to understand that life happens every day. We will encounter setbacks. We will suffer losses. Understand this and act accordingly.
We will feel and we will hurt; however, we also have the right to overcome and heal. Furthermore, we reserve the right to improve on a daily basis, which perhaps is our greatest right of all because no one has the right to stop us from improving.
The main objective is to find personal evenness, balance, and stability because although life might have unbalanced times, the balance of wellness means that we as individuals will never have to feel so unbalanced again.